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Making Sense of Depression

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They say that due to depression, Robin Williams likely took his own life. Depression? You say, “but he was the funny guy!”  He was remarkably talented, blessed with the gift of humoring others. He made us laugh.  Laughter makes us feel good. So we all ask, “then why?” Depression is a terrible malady that overtakes… continue reading »

Never Give Up on a Good Thing

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Therapists motto: “Never Give Up On A Good Thing” My husband and I like to spend time over a good meal listening to smooth jazz and enjoying each other’s company. One of our favorite songs is a terrific song from George Benson that we like both for the music and the words. When we heard it… continue reading »

7 Secrets of Lasting Love

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Recently I read an article from USA Weekend describing “7 Secrets of Lasting Love.” As the name suggests, they give those 7 secrets (see below). All but two secrets (secrets # 2 and # 6) were right on target. As a marriage and family therapist for over 25 years, I have encountered hundreds, probably thousands… continue reading »

Spiritual Intimacy

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I particularly liked this short article on spiritual intimacy from “Biblical Counseling Insights” from the AACC: There are many ways couples can work to build spiritual intimacy. The following action steps give several of these ways. Action Step 1.    Talk, Listen, and Share Spiritual intimacy cannot occur in a relationship unless there is meaningful communication… continue reading »

Infidelity: It Begins Before the Physical Affair

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There are few things in life which are more devastating to a couple than marital infidelity. To have someone you love betray you on such a deep level is emotionally and even physically difficult to deal with. Whether you’ve gone through this in the past, are currently going through it, or are worried that your… continue reading »

Connecting in Marriage

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Quite often, young married couples with children come in for therapy, relaying to me their busy schedules.  The husband and/or wife leave for work, drop off the kids at school, one or the other picks up the kids, takes them to their extracurricular activities, fix dinner, do homework, etc.  When I ask, “When do you… continue reading »

Feb. 28 CounselTalk Webinar coming

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I’m looking forward to being a part of this webinar — great speakers! Feb. 28 CounselTalk Webinar through the American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC): Topic: Love & Respect: God’s Ingredient for Great Relationships Time: 3PM – 6:30PM PST. It is recommended to sign in at least 10 minutes early. Speakers: Emerson Eggerichs, Ph.D. and… continue reading »

Integrating Spirituality and Psychology

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I recently was asked how Marriage and Family Therapists get critical ministry experiences.  As I pondered the question, I flashed back to when I first entered the field in 1986. As a beginning therapist, many of my referrals came from pastors, and church related organizations. I very quickly became disillusioned with Christians.  I spent hours… continue reading »

The Benefits of Hugging in a Relationship

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A warm embrace. Rich chocolate. Painkillers. What do these three things have in common? They all produce a similar effect in your body. Did you know that research states that 20 seconds of hugging elicits chemicals in the body that are very connective? There are other ways to elicit these chemicals. But painkillers can be… continue reading »